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The Art of Self-Mastery (3 of 3)

Robert Greene’s Mastery is the cornerstone of an entrepreneur’s education. This fantastic book is filled with dozens of key points of masterful cognition, concisely packed alongside examples from history, both recent and long past. We will delve into the topic of Mastery in a 3 part series outlining a few golden nuggets which are highly necessary for crafting your self-mastery.

The World is what you make of it.

Your mind can be trained and conditioned to change; you can readapt your self to overcome issues through how you adjust your thinking alone. It may be no easy task, but it is an objective worth taking as it will ensure you will be able to persevere through all of the trials and tribulations the world throws your way. The world truly is what you make of it, if you can spin a hardship into a blessing, finding the cloud’s silver lining so to speak, you will overcome any adaptability test the world throws your way.

See a need…

You may find when looking at problems you study what is wrong, but you need to look past the what and at the how. True masters never see what they only see the how, if they do not see how right away, they will find it. If you were to study the operation of a car it would be in your best interest to learn how it works and then what the names of the parts are.

When you find the how of a problem, you will be able to find a need, when you see that need, you can fill that need. Filling the need of others will lead to your profit, people do not buy things or services they do not think they need. Thousands of persons throughout history have seen a need, be that to innovate, create, or lead. Find your market and capitalize on it.

The Six Most Common Pitfalls.

As you navigate the landscape of success out will stumble into the six most common pitfalls it contains, but so that you will be warry of them I will list them now:

Complacency. You will find that you grow complacent and think your self happy with what you have gained, but this is a poisonous thought and you must not idle and stagnate.

Conservatism. When you gain success, you will begin to think that your ideas are an unshakeable fact and you will resist innovation. Do not do this, embrace innovation and forward progress, as it will be how you have gained success and how you will gain further success.

Dependency. It may be easy to rely strongly on others, but you must not take to such weakness. They will lord their power over you and dry you of your passion. While in small amount dependency is fine, do not gorge yourself upon it.

Impatience. Impatience has toppled empires and destroyed lives do not be so foolish as to not learn from history but center yourself and act calmly.

Grandiosity. While a good self-image is healthy, woe to those who do not keep their hubris in check. A false sense of grandiosity will only lead to ruin as you know well: pride comes before the fall.

Inflexibility. Work tirelessly to ensure that you are adaptable, if you are not you will find things change fast than you can react, destroy months if not years of progress. Those who do not bend will break.

Afterward.

The pure knowledge in the book Mastery, I cannot recommend the book enough. What I have covered in these articles is only the tip of the iceberg that can be found with reading the book yourself.

Eric Deegear is an entrepreneur, author, therapist, motivational speaker & business coach. He holds a psychology degree and several therapeutic licenses. After creating and applying successful principles in his personal life, he began to utilize his skills professionally to help those looking to change their lives for the better.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed with the incredible amounts of deep inner work that are required for life and work. Change happens one step at a time with Deegear Coaching.

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The Art of Self-Mastery (2 of 3)

Robert Greene’s Mastery is the cornerstone of an entrepreneur’s education. This fantastic book is filled with dozens of key points of masterful cognition, concisely packed alongside examples from history, both recent and long past. We will delve into the topic of Mastery in a 3 part series outlining a few golden nuggets which are highly necessary for crafting your self-mastery.

The Kinds of Failure.

You have to constantly push and challenge yourself to grow. You may at first be hesitant to do this due to fear of failure, to rid yourself of this you only need to change your view of failure. There are two kinds of failure:

  1. Failure from never trying something and failing.
  2. Failure from trying something out.

You will never learn from the first kind of failure, but the second is what careers are made of. You can’t chop down a tree in but a few swings, it will take many swings to chop it down, are the first swings of the ax worthless? No, they built the groundwork that caused the tree to fall, even if they seemed to have no impact, they provided knowledge and experience; two things that can only be achieved from trying.

To achieve greatness in a field you will need to learn the how and what of it, to truly know the ins and outs, the inside of the machine so to speak. Push yourself to learn as much as you can, knowledge is worth more than all the riches of the world. Even if you were to lose everything tomorrow you would be able to return to your original position due to your knowledge and experience.

What you will look to get from others.

People nowadays will only give you soft criticism, they are too afraid of hearting you to really tell you if something is wrong. You must cultivate an environment around you that gives you honest and harsh feedback. Do not lash out against criticism, pool in yourself a sense of humility when putting an ear to others’ thoughts on your work, do not think yourself above their words or that they do not truly understand.

The Seven Deadly realities.

The seven deadly realities are seven flaws that all humans have we must do our best to mitigate them in ourselves and exploit them in others.

  1. Envy. Avoid letting yourself lusting for the “greener grass” on the other side. Use what you have; you can do wonders from wherever you stand with enough knowledge.
  2. Conformism. Do not let yourself or others drag you do to their level of work; make your unique way.
  3. Rigidity. Keep yourself fluid and don’t get suck in your ways, listen to the feedback of others and change accordingly.
  4. Self-obsessiveness. Remember to tame your hubris, do not let it control you. Don’t focus on yourself and become closed off to others.
  5. Laziness. It may be easy to get stuck in a mental quagmire, slushing about inside your head not doing or wanting to do anything. It is imperative to be able to escape this thought trap so that you do not waste time and energy doing nothing.
  6. Flightiness. You must watch your consistency and do not let it waver, no matter the task is you should attack it with the same fervor as always.
  7. Passive aggression. Do not lower yourself to passive aggression, but let others know you will not tolerate it. It is better to leave a score unsettled then to retaliate.

Click here for Part 3 of our Mastery Series.

Eric Deegear is an entrepreneur, author, therapist, motivational speaker & business coach. He holds a psychology degree and several therapeutic licenses. After creating and applying successful principles in his personal life, he began to utilize his skills professionally to help those looking to change their lives for the better.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed with the incredible amounts of deep inner work that are required for life and work. Change happens one step at a time with Deegear Coaching.

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The Art of Self-Mastery (1 of 3)

Robert Greene’s Mastery is the cornerstone of an entrepreneur’s education. This fantastic book is filled with dozens of key points of masterful cognition, concisely packed alongside examples from history, both recent and long past. We will delve into the topic of Mastery in a 3 part series outlining a few golden nuggets which are highly necessary for crafting your self-mastery.

Levels of Mastery.

When under times of extreme stress such as a deadline, you may find yourself able to work with energy and gusto previously thought impossible. This last-minute fervor for the task allows you to complete the assignment, task or mission in an incredibly short period of time. Harnessing this energy; becoming able to unleash it without a moment notice on unsuspecting duties, is the crux of mastery.

There are three distinct levels of mastery:

  • Student: Beginner and dabbler in the subject of interest.
  • Practitioner: Moderate skills in the area of interest. Knows field moderately, not specialized.
  • Mastery: Specialized and skilled in particular sections. Massive knowledge in areas of interest.

As humans, we are super adaptable; everything we imagine is achievable given a reasonable amount of time. Time is what leads to mastery. View your passions, because what they are is what will most easily become your mastered skill. Mastery is not a bygone relic of the past; Discard this view that has been shackled to you by society and embrace the idea that you can and will become a master in what you work on.

This is because, above all else, your particular combination of atoms will never happen again. You are a super unique phenomenon that cannot be replicated. Celebrate your uniqueness, know who you are and don’t let others change your mindset. Be responsible for your life.

Monkey see monkey do.

When you observe someone performing an action your brain can mirror their process in your head, allowing you to learn intricate skills merely by watching others. This valuable evolutionary tool benefits us immensely, because seeing another individual perform actions gives us a head-start in learning new techniques or methods.


Several key areas exist in which you can improve and condition yourself.

  • Find pleasure in completing your tasks. – Chasing pleasure for its own sake and going from one day to the next trying to get a new fix will only lead to sorrow and disappointment
  • Set 1-2 priorities and stick with them. – Don’t try to do too many things at once as it muddles your focus and narrows your vision. You need to keep a clear goal in mind to truly succeed.
  • Focus on learning new skills – Embracing a skill deeply allows you to learn related skills faster and easier than ever before.

Learning vs people-pleasing.

It can be tempting to try to please others in what you do rather than work on what fulfills your own life.

People are only around you for a short time, coming and going at random, while any time and effort invested in yourself will be there for the rest of your life. Give yourself an education in your field of interest. Fight for it, pushing and clawing your way to the top of your subject of choice (or several fields, see skill-stacking).

To do anything well you must cultivate a deep understanding of it and a no-compromises attitude to get what you want. Here are 2 further tips to attain complete mastery in a subject:

  1. Child-like learning – Young children are great learners because they sustain a welcoming and open attitude to all knowledge received. Become humble and accepting when you learn from peers and teachers as a sense of false superiority will only hinder your learning.
  2. After learning, practice – You will know that your time as a student is over when there is no more to learn. After you master a skill, practice it. Do not become stagnate and fester away, practice to keep yourself sharp.

Click here for Part 2 of our Mastery Series.

About Eric:

Eric Deegear is an entrepreneur, author, therapist, motivational speaker & business coach. He holds a psychology degree and several therapeutic licenses. After creating and applying successful principles in his personal life, he began to utilize his skills professionally to help those looking to change their lives for the better.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed with the incredible amounts of deep inner work that are required for life and work. Change happens one step at a time with Deegear Coaching.

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Three Reasons For Why You Should Strive for Financial Success

The more you benefit others the more you will benefit yourself. This article borrows concepts from Magnetic Wealth Attraction by Frederick Dodson.

1. The World Won’t Hand It To You.

Life can be hard. In this belief, you will be compelled to take initiative and not wait for the world to serve you but spring at the chance to serve the world. By taking responsibility for your life, you will gain satisfaction with the work of your hands and maybe even happiness. Dodson emphasizes that it is okay to not be happy all the time; There is no need to even try, you can’t.

If you behave like someone who has completed his financial goals, accomplishing this task will arrive upon your doorstep and you will not need to go to it.

2. You Become More Valuable.

Providing others will be a benefit that they can exchange money for or something else of value to you for or the inverse, trading money so that others may benefit you. These transactions never place money as the end goal, but rather as a means to an end; money is never a goal as it shouldn’t as goals revolving around money are about what you can buy with it.

No matter your setbacks you will be able to remake progress lost at any time as it is not the progress or wealth that matters but the knowledge and experience of gaining the progress or wealth. It is also important to discard the belief that making money is the same thing as taking money. You cannot make money without providing a service or benefit to others, as long as you offer something worth paying for no matter your price you will find someone to pay it because the only thing that matters to people is what value you can give them.

3. Life Becomes Better.

Take this as an encouragement! From where you stand, you could go in a million different directions. That even if there are obstacles you can instead of complaining about your path blocked you can, discover the solution (something also touched on by Anthony Robbins in Awaken the Giant Within). If you merely complain and only think of your inhibited progress you will get nothing, but complaints and your progress be furthermore inhibited. However, if you instead look for a solution and work towards finding the solution you will get what you have opened yourself to attracting; you cannot get anything that you do not attract.

Dodson ends with a little bit of fortune cookie wisdom, writing: it is important to do all the difficult things first in the day, as the longer you avoid a challenge the worse it becomes. Correct your mistakes quickly and immediately or they will compound and overwhelm you.

Summary.

The book is filled with questionnaires that will help you discover where you stand in your journey, and what aspect of yourself you may need to correct. The book itself makes for a quick read, maybe 3-4 hours in length a cost I can highly recommend affording.

About Eric:

Eric Deegear is an entrepreneur, author, therapist, motivational speaker & business coach. He holds a psychology degree and several therapeutic licenses. After creating and applying successful principles in his personal life, he began to utilize his skills professionally to help those looking to change their lives for the better.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed with the incredible amounts of deep inner work that are required for life and work. Change happens one step at a time with Deegear Coaching.

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The 6 Simple Steps To Success

Summarized from “Awaken the Giant Within” by Anthony Robbins

1. Decide what you really want, and what is preventing you from having it.

There may be a few more rocks in the way than you planned.

The first step is deceptively simple: sit down, search within yourself and find out what your true, most inner desire is. Doing this soul-searching is imperative to help you find your path in life. A map is useless without two points of interest: where you currently are and where you want to be. By knowing where we are headed and where we stand, we then have something to set our compasses by and are able to begin imagining the journey that lies before us.

Discovering this ultimate mountain peak of dreams is vital in life, as the years slip away and you end up somewhere and as someone that you never wanted to be. The second part of this step is looking at what is preventing you from having your dreams. What roadblocks do you see in front of your goal?

2. You get what you focus on: good or bad.

You can do it!
Life will be as challenging as you think it is.

You must next choose to change your focus; it will greatly affect your journey. The roadblocks you found in step one, they aren’t a hindrance but an opportunity to grow, adapt, even to profit! The world is truly what you make of it. Life is as hard as you think it is with the challenges as daunting as you make them out to be.

3. Interrupt the pattern.

People have a tendency to sink into a pattern, sticking to the same routine day to day, then finding themselves unsatisfied with their life’s direction. What do you do that is keeping you from your dreams? Toxic relationships, bad habits or unsatisfying work routines are among the most common.

Whatever it is, the important part is to hit the brakes on the train and shortcut the system. Drive a different way to work. Change up your wardrobe. Move your bed to the other side of the room. Go on a vacation. You need to clear the slate for your mind and open the space for new plants to grow in your mind garden.

4. Create a new empowering alternative.

You need to change out your negative behaviors, just like a software engineer debugging code.

When you stop a negative behavior or addiction you need to replace it with something that offers the same benefits that the behavior provided. You had that behavior for a reason and the new behavior needs to provide the same or more benefits than the old behavior or you will slip back into your old behavior.

For example, smartphones and the addictive applications they hold offer a ready source of dopamine with their constant blings, pings, and boops of social approval. To remove the constant cell phone checking behavior, you need to find a beneficial source of dopamine which creates the same mental reward while also resulting in a subsequent step toward success. This new habit will be personal to you and your journey.

5. Condition the new pattern until it is consistent.

The fifth step is working the behavior into your pattern, repeating it until it continuously produces the desired result and becomes second nature.

The opinions differ on how long one must repeat the new pattern until it has been recorded as a habit in your mind. Researchers at University College London found that it took a little over two months for a habit on average to become conditioned.

6. Test the new pattern and check back with the other steps.

Make your new behavior a consistent part of your pattern.

The final challenge I give to you is to go over all of the previous steps like a checklist and then really dig deep in answering these questions:

  • Is the new behavior helping you towards your goal or overcoming a roadblock or challenge? Does it help you grow in a positive direction?
  • Has the old behavior been removed completely from your pattern?
  • Is this behavior a better alternative or should it be replaced?
  • Is this new behavior consistent and part of your pattern?

Closing thoughts

We are simple creatures; each of our decisions comes from what we associate with pain or pleasure. The secret to taking control of your own life is to combine appropriate neurons to the relevant stimuli, creating unconscious habits that benefit you in the long term instead of the short term.

Sometimes the pain comes from a memory, in which case, you can replay the memory for yourself as if you were watching a movie, then again as an old silent film complete with musical score. Try recalling the same memory over and over again until you can no longer remember this incident without the additional positive layers you have created. This causes you to disassociate pain with the memory and instead associate a little pleasure to it the next time it comes up in your mind.

Your path to sucesss is before you, I can only show you the door, you must walk through it.

Eric Deegear is an entrepreneur, author, therapist, motivational speaker & business coach. He holds a psychology degree and several therapeutic licenses. After creating and applying successful principles in his personal life, he began to utilize his skills professionally to help those looking to change their lives for the better.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed with the incredible amounts of deep inner work that are required for life and work. Change happens one step at a time with Deegear Coaching.